Confidence In Youth- Is it Trainable?

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This blog post comes from a champion who came in one time and then was done. She never came in again. This is a post I’ve wanted to post for a while on confidence in youth.
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Will refer to this client as Mary and her mother as Janet.
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I wanted to write this post for awhile as it is one of the most important aspects of creating a successful person….. so not just a better athlete, but a better person. Because all kids eventually turn into adults and if they don’t acquire this as children then adulthood is going to be that much harder.
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What I’m talking about is confidence. Or self-esteem. Both are super important to lead the life you want. To hold your head high and shoulders back and chest thrust out to say ‘hey world! I’m somebody who’s going to make something of myself!’
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Mary came in for her workout finally. Her mother Janet registered Mary to start her trial on June 3. After many texts, calls, and emails she finally started on August 21. More then 10 weeks later. She registered her for our overcoming adversity program for kids and teens; which is for our overweight/weight loss program.
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So she came in and did her workout with us.
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I’m writing this about 3 months after the fact of her actual workout, but I remember hers very vividly. We started off with a strength circuit, moved to a core/rotational circuit with our wall bands, then moved into agility circuit on our agility ladders, then finished off with dodge ball like we normally do.
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When I met her, like a lot of kids I meet for the first time, I shake their hand and look them dead in the eye. Most of the time it’s like shaking hands with a dead fish and they stare off to the ground or off to the side. Mary was no different. She was 13 years old and attending our Exploration class which is 8-13 year olds. Most 13 year olds we put into our Transformation classes (14+) unless they are coming in for our overcomer’s program like Mary was.
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I asked all the normal questions I ask all our new clients:
  • How old are you?
  • What grade are you in?
  • What school you go to?
  • What sports do you play?
  • What do you want to get better at?
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She usually looked at her mom for approval to answer first and then basically whispered her answers to the point I had to become a close talker and lean up close to her to hear what she was saying.
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Looking at her mom would become a theme throughout the workout.
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We start the workout, with about 7 kids total. Throughout every circuit we did she needed additional help on form and what to do. I’m thinking because she wasn’t really paying attention but kept looking over to her mom.
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I kept on her with the form for most exercises, but she moved very timidly and when I asked if she was alright or felt the movements in the right places, or corrected her form it was usually just a nod, When I asked a question that required more then a nod or shake of the head, it was usually a shrug of the shoulders. She never could tell me where she was feeling it, so I usually had to get more defined and ask if she was feeling the movements in the areas I knew she was supposed to— again more looks to mom and more nods.
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She was very out of shape, and being overweight her mobility and coordination was very off.
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By the 3rd circuit of the night I was getting super frustrated with her looking at her mom all the time. I wanted to say ‘stop looking at your mom, pay attention to what I’m saying and what I’m showing you to do. Your mom cannot help you now.’ But I didn’t because I knew she would never come back.
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But she never did. Texts between her mom indicated she was but never showed again. I’m not surprised.
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Usually by the end of two-weeks I can see a remarkable difference in a kids self-confidence. Anytime you get someone stronger and moving better and always deliver positive re-enforcement— they’re going to become more confident.
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With Mary it was the biggest case of lack of self-confidence I had ever seen. And I’ve worked with a lot of kids.
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The problem is she never came back and never will. Texts between her mom and me confirmed she would be back at least 2x, but no show. I can’t help anybody who doesn’t show up. And she needed a lot of help. I even texted her letting her know I’d like to speak to her about my opinions about her daughter— which I’m expressing here in this post—— but still never heard back.
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A child who is overweight and who is constantly looking to her mom for approval will take that attitude into adulthood. She already has a complete lack of self-confidence.
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‘How you do anything is how you do everything.’
-T. Harv. Eker
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Children learn from their peers and especially their parents.
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What are you teaching your kids?

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Not what you say to them………what are you doing? 
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You can always tell who and what a person is made of by their actions, not by what they say.
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Everybody will tell you they want to be the best, have the best, raise the best kids…….. but what are they doing?
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Because what they do is what they become. Actions make lives. Positive actions make positive lives and positive kids. Negative actions make negative lives and negative kids………or not confident kids.
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You can change your life at anytime. However most won’t, because change is hard and most aren’t aware of their ‘issues’.
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Nobody is perfect. Everybody can have the life they want. You just need to figure out what you want then figure out the strategies and tactics to get there.
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At Athletic Revolution we always maintain a positive environment and attitude towards all of our champions (that’s what we call all the kids that come in) because we know that’s what every kid has the ability to become: A Champion! Whether it’s in their sport, in certain exercises, or in life in general.
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If you are weak you will build confidence by getting stronger.
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If you are overweight you will build confidence by losing weight and body fat.
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If you are weak and overweight and you do absolutely nothing about it then you will remain weak and overweight— and you will lose self confidence. Self-confidence will affect your attitude towards self, life and others.
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Your attitude affects your altitude.

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If you are a parent it’s your duty to build your child’s self-confidence up and find others who can help along the way.

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